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life Is a journey ... not a destination

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​And love is not a feeling ... it's a way of living that creates a feeling! There have been many life lessons that escaped my attention for years, laying hidden, invisible under the daily pressures of work, money, family, birthdays, holidays and other issues demanding attention.

But my journey explains who I am, who I was and who I will become. Everyone's journey is unique and yet we all probably have in common that we live, love and struggle through most of them.

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,​I have always been curious about our world, about nature and people, and I like to get out and do things. As a teenager I explored central England by canoe and hitchhiked around Europe. After graduating from university in the 1970's, I travelled overland across Africa. A 19,000 km trip that had no back-up, no security and no modern technology to support it. It was strongly influential in my future thinking, not least because during my travels I had to face days that could so easily have proved to be my last. It was a terrible, wonderful experience and over the years I've learned more from re-evaluating it than I did whilst doing it.

Back in England I spent 10 years in a variety of job roles, sometimes employed, sometimes self-employed. I always worked hard and was honest and straight forward in all my business dealings. I had great results, and in some areas enjoyed myself a lot. But I was psychologically challenged by many other business people who had very different beliefs and values to mine.

During these years I was married into a family famous in the world of entertainment, and I focused my efforts on building the future, and creating a place called home. The universe however had a different plan in store and, for reasons I still don't understand, love was lost. I was left stranded, learning how to mend a broken heart and find new strengths to change course. It was my darkest time.

​On the hobby front I moved from racing single seat hydroplanes to the much slower team sport of offshore sailing and joined as crew on a yacht based on the Hamble on the south coast. Often wet, cold and uncomfortable but a great time and my passion for sailing continues in a more relaxed way to this day.
I joined the technology industry starting as a Sales Representative and finishing as Company Director responsible for Sales and Marketing across Europe, Middle East and Africa. In this enjoyable seven year role I again came up against unethical business practices when a new Managing Director joined. Profit was king and the path to glory meant manipulating many loyal and long-term customer relationships. I could not align myself with this set of professional values and so I resigned. It was another leap into the unknown.

​By this time I was married and living with my now life partner in Madrid. She is South American (from the beautiful country of Colombia) and so I was again making big life adjustments as I adopted into my family environment a mix of English, Spanish and Colombian cultures and learned to communicate in a second language.

​Together we decided I would leverage my business and technology knowledge to be an independent consultant and I set about learning how to become one. As the world moved into the twenty first century, a mix of hard work and a resulting dose of luck saw me flying off to Dubai for my first project as part of a team researching and advising Sheik Mohammed Bin Rashid Al Maktoum and his government about how to convert a desert city into the unique and successful business and tourist centre it is today. I stayed working in several middle eastern countries during a number of years for governments, banks, oil companies and others before re-focusing back into Europe.

​It was at this stage that, with everything going so well, I started to feel I was missing something. I did not know what except that it was something to do with understanding who I was as a human being ... not as a consultant, a partner or a parent, but something deeper. Why did I make the decisions I made? What was my value as a human being? And with no specific religious beliefs to help me through this meant it was time to find a new paradigm in my way of thinking.  This led me to NLP.
At first I thought NLP to be a fantasy promoted through wild claims and marketing hype. I attended the courses but also read a lot around the edges and related back what I was learning to its origins (very little in classical NLP is original, it is combined in an original way but many concepts date back to much more ancient teachings). I did courses aimed at both business and therapy and grew to understand and internalise its significance. I continued to study until became a true "NLPer" with trainer qualification. 

By this time I was training as well as consulting for a number of companies and now with both English and Spanish my coverage of the globe had expanded. I was working  in both North and South America, Canada, Asia, India and Australia as well as close to home in Europe. I've now covered over 60 countries and in my training work have incorporated NLP into many business and communication skills courses. I've found it works and is valued regardless of geography, culture or language.​

And it was time for a new hobby and so I signed up at a local airfield for flying lessons and started to enjoy the safe and enjoyable flying conditions that the Spanish climate gives.

​And then my health started to suffer and despite all the medical tests the doctors could think of I was apparently very healthy ... except the symptoms clearly showed I wasn't! 

What a challenge this became. It made normal living and working so much harder and I needed to find a solution for myself.
I researched everything I could find that might affect my physical dis-ease and thought deeply about what my inner mind and body were trying to tell me. Despite everything on the outside showing the contrary I found I was not at ease, not balanced on the inside ... not in body or in mind. (If you are an NLPer then you'll understand that one of the prime directives of the unconscious mind was demanding attention!) 

My research led me to investigate mBraining, the gut microbiome and relaxation techniques and I subsequently adopted them with great positive results.  

What I learned is now included in the work I do and has been important in my journey. mBraining in particular has attracted me as, not only is it a discipline that aligns with NLP, but also it makes a difference very quickly. I trained first in the mBIT Coaching techniques and then joined an amazing group of people to become qualified as a trainer. 

And that brings us to more or less the current day. I continue working in the corporate world as well as running the NLP and mBIT Coach certification programs (See: www.nlpandmbitcoach.training) and supporting expat executives in my coaching practice.
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​"Paul is a rare mix of grounded wisdom, deep love and quiet calm.  His intuitive sense is astonishing, enabling exquisite guiding of others in a safe, effective and transformational manner.  If you get a chance to be coached or trained by Paul – grab it."
 
Dr Suzanne Henwood, mBIT Master Coach and Master Trainer and Director of mBraining4Success
"My patients are patients because they are out of rapport with their own unconscious... patients are people who have had too much programming - so much outside programming that they have lost touch with their inner selves"
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​Milton Erickson 
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